040. 5 Friends You Need in Your Tribe

A few blogs back I posted a blog “7 Signs Your Friends Don’t Like You,


Cue music “What about your friends will they stand their ground? Will they let you down again? What about your friends are they gonna be low down? Will they ever be around or will they turn their backs on you?”


*insert 90s dance break*


For some of you it was eye-opening, while others could easily discern the friends from foes. Today, I don’t want to focus on said frenemies, but the more positive influences in your circle. If you are like me the older you get the more you realize that there is more value in a tribe of quality friends than quantity. Yes there is strength in numbers, but when it comes to your sanity and good will, having a sound support system and authentic fellowship quality wins. Every female needs a tribe of woman supporting her. A fierce tribe can be the difference between success and failure or finding yourself on a walk of shame at 6 in the morning.




Have you ever heard the saying you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with? If that is the case your success hinges on your social relationships with others. Regardless of the path you take in life, you need people in your corner who will challenge you, make you better and help you maintain a happy life. A fierce tribe can consist of an infinite number of women, however, there are 5 key players that you need in your tribe to increase your level of happiness and success. So what type of chicks do you need by you side? I’ve identified 5 key women you need in your circle to keep you going.




The Urban socialite


The socialite, is your Instagrammy-worthy bestie that is well known for her beauty and superb fashion sense. She is fond of social activities and holds a high social position. She is all about the prestigious entertainment from upscale nightclubs, charity events, fashion shows and fine art galas. The socialite’s address book and social connections are her most prized possessions and she serves as your link to the superlative events around town. Why do you need a socialite on your team? In addition to her social connections, the socialite exudes confidence. So much confidence it is bound to rub off on anyone in her proximity. In addition, the socialite is a key player to enhancing you cultural awareness, attend enough events with her and you are sure to meet a diverse group of interesting people.




The Implausible One


Everyone needs that one girlfriend that no one understands exactly why you are friends or even how you became to be friends in the first place. You can’t help everyone, but everyone can help someone, which is why this unlikely friendship just works. No one understands your relationship. She may have interest that are different than yours, live a different lifestyle or practice different behaviors, yet you two just click. This implausible friend challenges your perspective or outlook on life. She makes you look at things in new ways or takes you outside your comfort zones. And you know what happens when you leave your comfort zone, right? Growth! The implausible one is great for exploring uncharted territories and experiencing new things. The implausible one will be the friend that is down for the “nontraditional” activities your other friends hate or are unlikely to try.